change · confidence · goals · renewal

Dream Big And Work Small

Too often when we want something, we do not want to wait for it.

Instant messages, fast food, quick loans, overnight delivery, one hour glasses. The world has been wired to coddle and appease on-demand tastes. And with the increasing speed of everything, our desire to want experiences now has not only become commonplace but expected.

It is human nature to focus on the destination rather than the journey. But while a hurried approach might be fine for the service industry or technology, the rapid-fire tempo of life does not work everywhere, especially when it comes to far-reaching dreams or goals.

Change – real and meaningful change – does not happen quickly. It requires determination, organization, and extreme patience. And this is often the very reason why many people do not pursue their true dreams. They think big but do not work small. They want the reward without taking an honest look at the steps necessary to get there.

We cannot always get what we want simply by wanting it. We must work, then wait, work, and then wait again. Rushing toward satisfaction in certain areas will only lead to 1) disappointment with the result 2) lack of appreciation for the result 3) lackluster result or 4) complete failure.

Life is a project. Treat it that way.

Whether it be physical or mental, a career path, school, relationships, home improvement, or a major life change, mapping out the ideal end and expectation is the key. And the best place to start? At the beginning.

  1. Where do you hope to be? What exactly do you want? I mean truly want. Focus on the overall picture, aim high and dream big but be sure you are specific in your goal. Envision the intricate details of your final reward. Imagine the incredible feeling of accomplishment. Having a clear visual along with the anticipation of a successful end will help propel you forward when times get tough and all seems impossible.
  2. How will you get there? What is your simple plan? And I do mean simple. Create a few manageable steps. Again, you have to start somewhere so start at the beginning. Decide what must be done and go in order – do not jump to an easier, more appealing task if others must be completed first. Work diligently and once done, move onto the next. And do not forget to take pride in the smallest of victories and celebrate along the way.

And for those times when you feel stuck, defeated, or in need of a reality check:

BE DETERMINED Short term pain for long-term gain. If you made a decision, stay committed and resolve to see it through. There will be times when it all seems too much and overwhelming. With any large undertaking it is inevitable. You will question whether it is worth the time, energy, or emotional and physical effort. But if you obsess and get caught up in the amount of work involved, you will never get anywhere. When it all seems too much…

GET ORGANIZED Work small for big results. Think about it: a bridge is not built road first – it needs a stable, strong foundation, a base to rest upon. Even this article is not published immediately, it goes through stages of content creation, research, editing, proofreading, etc. Work in an organized manner and find a way to overcome every step, no matter how involved or consuming. If that way does not work, seek another. Simply crossing one thing off the list and moving onto the next can be a great motivator to…

HAVE PATIENCE Stay the course. Be sympathetic to the process and your journey. If you need to reassess and alter the course, do it. If you got through a rough spot, treat yourself. When you need a break, take it. And if all becomes too much, show some compassion. Just do not forget what you are working toward and the hurdles you are willing to overcome to get there. Baby steps can turn into long distance marathons and crossing that proverbial finish line will feel unbelievable.

If there is something on your wish list that seems unattainable, do not fret. It can be yours.  Just don’t expect to get it overnight.


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~Inspired ME, Joyful BE

change · confidence · goals · self

What To Do When No One Has Your Back

Face it, there will be times when no one supports your decision, when you are on your own, and when it is all on you.

We like to believe we achieve goals or succeed because someone helped us along the way. And to be honest, the majority of the time that is the case. Many of us would never overcome the bumps and bruises of life or exceed our own expectations without the aid of a spouse, family member, friend, neighbor, school, church, or community.

While it is true we pull our strength and motivation from those around us, there will come a time when we have no one to lean on – when no one has our back.

If you find yourself adrift in a sea of doubt and alone in your dream, it might be time to look inward rather than out for the validation and support you need.

3 WAYS TO BE THERE FOR YOURSELF

Become your loudest cheerleader –
When the crowd around you quiets to barely a whisper, that is the perfect time to unleash your inner voice and speak up loud and clear. In the most difficult and darkest of moments, seek whatever is good. Positive affirmations, celebrations for small victories, and personal rewards or incentives can all be the driving catalyst to keep you moving forward. Telling yourself “you got this!” or shouting out an “atta-girl!” (even if you do not completely believe it) may seem silly or insignificant but it can make an incredible difference when it matters most.

Do not give up on yourself (even if others have) –
A goal, particularly a far-reaching one, may take a toll over time. People will come and go and possibly tire of your journey, but that is to be expected. It is not their desire, it is yours. Dreams are tricky things. They can seem awesome and attainable at one moment and then ridiculous and out of reach the next. If living with it 24/7 pushes you beyond your limits, it might be time to reset. When at your lowest, focus your mind and heart on the end game and try to remember how great it will feel to reach the highest point. The ability to say you did it when no one thought you could can be an amazing motivator.

Remember the impossible is possible –
At some point someone will tell you it is a waste time and you should let it go. That is okay, especially if it is something you really want and believe in. A personal passion does not always need to be understood by an outsider. If you want and believe it that should be the key motivator. Some of the greatest inventors, doctors, musicians, artists, leaders, etc. were told they were crazy and wasting their time. But they had a vision, something no one else could understand in its beginning stages because it seemed too abstract and unreal. Even when others may not see it, keep your eyes wide open. Fight for what you know to be true and when you are done, share it in all of its entirety and beauty for the rest of the world to see.

In a world where we gain affirmation from virtual thumbs-up, social likes, and shares, it can be difficult to find and place value on our own thoughts and actions. Support comes from a variety of sources and whatever is given should definitely be appreciated. Just do not forget that sometimes, the most important person to have your back is you.


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