This week I said NO to 5 things that were not already on my schedule. Why?
1) I had too many other non-negotiable, everyday activities (i.e. have-to-dos, need-to-dos, family, home, work, appointments, errands, etc.).
2) I knew that doing the everyday things + these 5 extra things + whatever unexpectedly popped up would have required me to give more than I had to give.
I realize I cannot do it all. More importantly, I no longer try.
Saying NO is not easy for many people. I have little problem doing it. In fact, my first instinct when I am asked something is to politely turn it down. Perhaps this is a major quirk of being an Introvert and a Minimalist all rolled into one. I am severely protective of my time, particularly the rare, free time.
My knee-jerk reaction might be NO, but sometimes I honestly and truly have to say NO so I can:
1) maintain my sanity
2) focus on what matters
Release the guilt of putting your family, your needs, and yourself first.
When we say yes to everything, we never really give our full attention to anything which can = lost memories and disconnect.
When we say yes though our heart screams no, we give away pieces of ourselves which can = anxiety and frustration.
When we say yes to things we do not want to do, we give away irreplaceable pockets of time which can = anger and regret.
When we say yes because of pressure, we give away our control which can = resentment and powerlessness.
Sometimes we must say YES because it is simply the right thing to do. We have compassion for others. We make promises to keep. We have commitments to those we love. We make goals and carry dreams.
But, the next time your instinct questions whether to do something, stop and ask: Why are you thinking of doing it? What are you sacrificing to do it? What are the ramifications if you say no? What are the benefits if you say no?
Saying NO may seem like you are letting someone down or missing out, but it can also bring opportunity.
A chance to:
-enjoy the things you do rather than rush through them
-complete the things you have to do with purpose, detail, and pride
-free up time to take care of yourself
-have cherished, ‘do nothing,’ memory-making moments with the people who matter
The benefit of letting go of the non-essentials is that we make room. Room to pause, reflect, plan, think, rest, relax, appreciate, love. Rather than chasing whatever might be coming next, recognize what is right in front of you.
These are your moments, live them on your terms. Consider saying NO so you can say YES to something better.
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~Inspired ME, Joyful BE