acceptance · confidence · relationships · self · spirituality

Faith Takes Many Forms

After the New Year, I wrote about promises. To ourselves and others. This month I focus on the promise of faith.


Faith is a difficult concept to define. For some, it signifies confidence in a spiritual power. For others, it might simply mean placing trust in the unknown. The path can seem clear and straightforward or prove cloudy and unpredictable.

Regardless of how faith is viewed or what method is practiced, it is important to develop a higher level of awareness, connect to a layer beyond the known. A deep belief in something greater than ourselves serves as a guide. It reminds us things will be fine whether we follow the proven course or explore new territory. Faith enhances the lifetime joys while minimizing the challenges of daily living. It celebrates. It cheers. It comforts. It heals. It provides strength when at our weakest and direction if we become lost.

If the idea seems overwhelming, think of faith more as a positive way to approach life, one in which hope and optimism rather than fear and pessimism are the norm. And the good thing is: the more it is practiced, the easier it becomes.

Unsure how to build a solid foundation of faith? There are two basic types that can be drawn upon, no matter the time, situation, or individual.

FAITH IN SELF
Believing in ourselves is faith in its truest form. We hold the power within to push through any obstacle placed in our way. Unfortunately, many of us are the root cause of those obstacles. Negative thoughts, doubt, and critical internal dialogue often lead to self-sabotage. We allow small hurdles to grow and manifest into more than they are, leaving us so unsure of our ability that we become frozen and unable to move forward. It is easier to pity ourselves and give into fear than face adversity and seek solutions. We construct imaginary comfort zones and reasons we cannot succeed to protect us from hurt, disappointment, or failure.

Why inflict unnecessary pain and impose limits when we should be giving ourselves love, compassion, and patience?

The next time you stumble upon a personal roadblock: 1) step out of yourself and think how you would treat a family member or friend in the same situation and then 2) bestow that same kindness upon yourself.

Reclaim the power within.

FAITH IN OTHERS
During times of trouble, it can be easy to fall further into ourselves rather than reach out. And while we often carry the power to solve problems on our own, there will be moments when life proves too much for us to handle. When this happens, do not be afraid to seek help from external sources. Support comes in surprising ways – spouses, children, family, friends, neighbors, employers, school, church, community, and even complete strangers. Asking for assistance may seem daunting but humans are instinctually wired to aid others in crisis. We want to help. We want to be needed. And when given the chance, we want to improve the experiences for others.

No matter how much we try, we cannot do this thing called life alone. We need people throughout our journey.

Open your heart and mind. Listen to ideas other than your own, appreciate advice of those who have gone before, and realize that sharing the struggle has unexpected benefits. Deep bonds are created once we realize we are more alike than different. Limitations become challenges to overcome rather than boundaries we cannot cross. We become reminded of just how wonderful people can be.

We are stronger together.

Believing – in self, in others, in anything – is a unique experience. There is no right or wrong way to believe. If someone imposes opinions or ideas on another, that is not a natural act. It is in the power of personal decision, the devotion to whatever is good for the individual that leads to the very success of one’s faith.

There will be times, however, when we may question the usefulness and purpose of beliefs held for so long. That is okay. Faith tests us – it is only fair we should test it back. If that time ever comes, do not be afraid to dig deeper into the reasons and facets of your conviction. Faith – in any form – should serve us well.

To believe is to hope – for something better, greater, more than what can be seen with the actual eye. It should be exciting and rewarding and above all, fulfilling. The next time Life trips you up … see what is within you, search for what is around you, look beyond the obvious.

Have a little faith.


Join me for A YEAR OF PROMISE!

Follow along as I focus on a different promise each month. This will not be some hard-core, paid program but a gentle exploration of changing how we view (and do) life. And in the end, maybe some parts will remain unchanged while others will be done in an entirely different way. The future is open, it is waiting, and it is all ours …

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acceptance · change · discovery · fears · learning · obstacles

When You Fall Into A Hole, Dig Deeper

After the New Year, I wrote about promises. To ourselves and others. This month I focus on the promise of reflection.


We all stumble, lose our way. And when we do, it is natural to avoid anything that might add to our discomfort or discontent. We might overindulge, engage in risky behavior, overspend, or hide behind a mask of feigned happiness.

Our instinct is to escape rather than reflect.

Understanding the root cause of a problem and working toward a solution is difficult. It requires time, effort, insight, and honesty. But though it may seem easier to pretend it does not exist or hope it will go away, the hurt or fear or pain will eventually catch up – in failed relationships, missed opportunities, disconnect, disinterest, and low self-esteem.

Whether it be personal, financial, career or health, there is no shame in hardship. Everyone will experience it. Sometimes we are up, sometimes we are down. And when it comes to living an inspired and joyful life, managing those pesky downs can make all the difference.

A Simple Guide for Reflection:

  1. ACKNOWLEDGE YOU HAVE FALLEN
    If you are in a bad place or facing a challenge that seems bigger than your ability, find the courage to name it. Giving it a label diminishes its strength, transfers the power. There might be numerous things bothering you. If so, recognize them but focus attention on what is the most disruptive. The biggest problem often leads to smaller ones. Control the leader and eliminate the followers. Taking ownership is the first step in overcoming whatever holds you back and moving on to a better place.
  2. STAY DOWN THERE A WHILE
    Fight or flight kicks in whenever we feel hurt, rejected, fearful, or overwhelmed. No one wants to dwell in pain. Yet sometimes, we need to stay and experience the discomfort before we can overcome it. Ask the hard questions and answer in raw honesty. Why have you fallen? Look outside of yourself and identify contributors. Why aren’t you getting up? Look inside yourself and identify behaviors. Linger within the pain, but do not stay too long. If it becomes a crutch or excuse, it is no longer within your control. The goal here is to confront and conquer it so you come out as a victor rather than victim.
  3. LEARN HOW TO CLIMB OUT
    No one should struggle alone. If the problem is more than you can handle, admit you need help and then find it. Research solutions to your problem via reputable sources. Discover methods for coping. Therapy, meditation, exercise, life coaching, books, forums. If you feel lost and unsure where to begin, ask those who have shared a similar experience. Be open. Be patient. Be realistic. There is no one size fits all option. Try different approaches until you find a healthy, manageable way to adapt or overcome.
  4. PACE YOUR ESCAPE
    Maybe it took a long time to fall, maybe it did not. Whether the struggle has been a lingering downward spiral or swift blow, it might take a while to mend whatever feels broken. Give yourself time to discover what is wrong and how to make it right. And once you have a plan in place, work slowly through each step to insure a thorough transition onto the next one. Rushing the process or skipping vital areas may seem tempting, especially once you realize what needs to be done. However, taking an easy path will not solve the heart of the problem, and it won’t be long before you fall back down.
  5. ENJOY THE CLIMB
    Improving yourself or your situation will not always be fun, but it will be filled with hidden rewards. Assume nothing will go as planned. Appreciate the unexpected. Proving you can overcome hardship carries an extraordinary sense of pride and accomplishment which will help you face future problems. And once you discover and recognize the strength that lies within you, your sense of self and confidence will soar. View each and every test of your ability as a lesson – not only in self-care, but in life.
  6. CELEBRATE
    When you reach the pinnacle of insight, be fully present. Commit the hard-won moment of joy to memory. Never forget that feeling of freedom, the independence from whatever held you down. This experience will prevent you from falling so hard the next time. In times of distress or worry, when you fear tumbling back into the abyss, remember how you waded through the darkness to come back into the light.

We will fall many times in this one life. Sometimes we will be pushed.

Rock bottom does not mean the only way out is to look up. Think about the darkness. What is its purpose? Think about the light. How do we claim it? Maybe if we slide a bit further down, we will realize the light cannot be seen up above because it is not always meant to be found there. Maybe, just maybe, when we fall into a hole and everything seems lost that is when we must dig deeper …


Join me for A YEAR OF PROMISE!

Follow along as I focus on a different promise each month. This will not be some hard-core, paid program but a gentle exploration of changing how we view (and do) life. And in the end, maybe some parts will remain unchanged while others will be done in an entirely different way. The future is open, it is waiting, and it is all ours …

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compassion · generosity · kindness · love · relationships

Many Reasons To Love

After the New Year, I wrote about promises. To ourselves and others. This month I focus on the promise of love.

When we think of love, we often think about what it does for us, the way it makes us act and feel. But with the upcoming holiday celebrating the very concept of love I wonder – have we ever considered what our love can do for another? 

LOVE can …

Calm – It provides steadiness in a rocky world.
Lift – It offers support through hardship and trouble.
Soothe – Consistent affection offers peace to the soul.
Elevate – Everything is more enjoyable when shared with another.
Push – It encourages the achievement of goals and dreams.
Pull – It reminds us to interact on a deeper level.
Respect – Everyone needs to feel they are worthy.
Accept – It allows us to simply be ourselves without judgment.
Connect – It suggests we are better together than alone.
Humble – Opening ourselves to others requires compromise.
Reward – Giving a little gives us far more in return.
Trust – It builds confidence in other relationships and experiences.
Heal – The hurt, the pain, it can be eased, possibly erased.
Revive – It carries remarkable strength, energy, and life.

To love. To be loved. No matter how it is done, it is a special gift – one that should be given whenever possible.


Join me for A YEAR OF PROMISE!

Follow along as I focus on a different promise each month. This will not be some hard-core, paid program but a gentle exploration of changing how we view (and do) life. And in the end, maybe some parts will remain unchanged while others will be done in an entirely different way. The future is open, it is waiting, and it is all ours …

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change · discovery · goals · renewal · self · simplicity

Happy YOU Year!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Want a better 2019? Forget resolutions.

I am not a fan of setting unrealistic goals and unfair expectations. Instead of resolutions, I prefer reflection. Rather than find imperfection or dream of perfection, I seek real change. The beginning of a new year is a chance to see what is not working and focus on doing better. It is an opportunity for a reset.

In place of resolutions, I suggest we make promises. To put ourselves first. To find more joy in the everyday.


Time is not something we have, it is something we make. ~unknown

While tending to the people and responsibilities in our lives, it can become easy to cross ourselves off the list to make room.

  • THE PROMISE OF PAUSE: Release the guilt and move You to the top of the list. Whether overdue health needs, a favorite hobby, or quiet moments for mind, body, and spirit, make time to care for yourself so you can go on to care for others.

There will be areas requiring attention and never-ending to-dos on the list, but do we ever question WHY we are doing them?

  • THE PROMISE OF PURPOSE: Whatever brings joy – do more of that. Whatever does not – prioritize, delegate, simplify, or eliminate so you can spend your limited time and energy on what truly matters.

To let go does not mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be. ~Jack Kornfield

Keeping up with everyone and everything 24/7 via social media and news can leave us feeling inadequate, overwhelmed, and helpless.

  • THE PROMISE OF PEACE: Release the excess. Simplify the information that crosses your path. Clean up your inbox. Detox your newsfeed. Create small steps to declutter your home. Unplug and unwind to make room in your mind, heart, relationships, and world.

A hurried pace creates a sense of chaos and stress and makes it impossible to focus. Details get overlooked. Time with others feels rushed.

  • THE PROMISE OF PATIENCE: Breathe. Then breathe again, deeper. Do this until you are fully present. You have this one life! Appreciate the beauty of a moment. Accept the things you cannot control. Linger within the things you can.

Notice every PROMISE begins with the letter P and that two are missing?

Do not put PRESSURE on yourself to do it all every single day. Do not aim for PERFECTION in everything you do.

This is to be a New Year of Happy!

One of mindfulness. Of presence. Of making time for what matters. Of letting go of what doesn’t. A YEAR OF YOU.


Join me for A YEAR OF PROMISE!

Follow along as I focus on a different promise each month. This will not be some hard-core, paid program but a gentle exploration of changing how we view (and do) life. And in the end, maybe some parts will remain unchanged while others will be done in an entirely different way. The future is open, it is waiting, and it is all ours …

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acceptance · celebration · home · self

The Gift Of Good Enough

The most wonderful time of the year can also be the most stressful. We put pressure on ourselves to give the perfect gift, bake the perfect cookie, serve the perfect meal, decorate the perfect tree, provide the perfect everything.

Do not allow the world to tell you how to celebrate. Whether simplified or with fanfare, a little bit or a lot, the best memories are created in the imperfect, unplanned moments. As long as they are done with love, you will never fail.

THIS HOLIDAY, GIVE THE GIFT OF BEING GOOD ENOUGH.

Struggling to keep up? Let it go. Wishing to do more? Let it BE.

Be unapologetic – Release the guilt and take care of your own needs.

Be kind – Depression and loneliness rise around the holidays.

Be considerate – Stop logging on and start powering off technological distractions.

Be real – Not so ideal photo? post it anyway. Cookies a bit burned? eat them anyway.

Be realistic – Celebrate within your means.

Be you – Stop comparing, quit competing. We are meant to be different.

Be grateful – Life may not be what you expected, but there is always something to appreciate.

Be positive – Focus on the good and more will come.

Be picky – Do not be afraid to say no to one thing so you can say yes to something better.

Be understanding – If gathering with others, remember this is their holiday, too. Embrace new experiences.

Be mindful – Linger over that cup of coffee with someone special.

Be present – Focus your whole heart on friends and family.

Be patient – Do not be in such a rush. The next thing can wait.

Be generous – If you can help another have a better day, do so.

Be thoughtful – Hold a door open, say thank you, lend a helping hand.

Be gracious – Maybe a gift is not the prettiest, but it if was given with love, it is the best.

Be honest – If you need help, ask for it. If you are overwhelmed, admit it.

Be still – Rest your mind, your body, your soul. Breathe.

Be blessed – You are here, living this one life.

Be Merry.

Be.


Wishing you an Inspired Christmas and a Joyful New Year!


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celebration · daily life · gratitude · happiness · self

A Grateful Heart

In a modern world, it becomes easy to miss the blessings in the everyday. With all there is to do amid the weight of responsibility, we become lost, trapped in a cycle of obligation and distraction.

Realizing how fortunate we are. Recognizing the beauty that surrounds us. Finding joy in the simplest of things. Noticing what people do – not in service or duty but from kindness. These are often overlooked or forgotten in the mix of a busy day.

How do you react to what is around you? What is your message?

I encourage you to pay attention. To the blessings. To the world. To your life. To the stranger who holds the door, the co-worker who makes you smile, the friend who never fails, the family member who always listens. There are little signs everywhere and in everything, reminders of all that is good – in others, in ourselves.

This holiday season, begin a journey toward gratitude.

  • perform an act of kindness
  • tell someone they are loved
  • offer forgiveness without condition
  • thank anyone who comes to your aid
  • show compassion for those in need
  • lift another up without expectation
  • acknowledge your own worth
  • receive apology without judgement
  • look for lessons in the everyday
  • create joy in everything you do
  • accept what has been
  • embrace what might be

Begin with a foundation of basic appreciation, allow the smallest of blessings to build upon each other, nurture and watch them grow into something beautiful. Go forward with a grateful heart.


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bookshelf · celebration · goals · gratitude · obstacles

(Almost) Crossing The Finish Line

In my other life, I am an author of contemporary fiction. Like much of this past year, it has been a challenge getting my latest project from chapter one to publication. But, I am happy to announce I am almost there.

The Breakup Effect will officially release later this month, and since it was directly inspired by this website, I thought it fitting to share the news here.

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There is more work to do but after dedicating every available moment to this book, I look forward to blogging regularly and re-connecting with everyone here. I have missed it so …